An introverts guide to feeling good about yourself
Are you an introvert that has trouble making friends? Here is an introverts guide to feeling good about yourself so that you can make friends.
Are you an introvert?
First let’s answer the question: ‘Are you an introvert’? If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you probably already knew the answer. Most introverts go through life thinking they are different than everyone else. Introverts are those people that are OK with being by themselves. They don’t need a huge crowd of people around them all the time (if ever). And, they feel comfortable not doing anything. To many (translated: extroverts), this seems strange.
Extroverts think it is odd for people to not want to be part of a large gathering. Extroverts, as opposed to introverts, like large groups. They like to have a lot of people around; in fact, they thrive on it – whereas, it depletes an introverts energy.
There is nothing wrong with either type of person. Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you are perfect. The problem is that if you’re an introvert, you feel like the extroverts judge you. Do you (as an introvert) feel like:
- Others think you’re antisocial because you have reservations about going to a company Holiday party?
- People are always telling you that you are shy?
- You have very little friends?
- You find being in a large group of people overwhelming?
If so, you are most likely an introvert and that is OK. An introvert’s guide to feeling good about yourself is here to help.
An introverts guide to feeling good about yourself
If you have ever been made to feel like there is something wrong with you, don’t fret. There isn’t anything wrong with you. Like I said earlier, we’re all perfect albeit a little misunderstood.
So, how do you feel good about yourself when you feel like no one likes you or that you have few friends? Here’s how:
- If you’re looking to make more friends, just start with trying to make 1 new friend. Don’t go overboard because this will turn into defeat. Understand yourself. You know you don’t get energy from being around too many people. Find that one person who you think you might be able to connect with and start small. Say hello, smile, be pleasant. This isn’t hard for us to be pleasant. Then, just build on that. Keep saying hello, keep smiling. After a bit (a few days, a week, a few weeks – whatever you have the energy for), start asking how they are or what they did on the weekend. Understand that they may also be an introvert and that it can be hard for them.
- And, take the advice of healthshots.com by realizing quality over quantity. You and I both know that have 1000 friends on Facebook isn’t going to make you feel any better. You want quality of friendships. You don’t want the superficial friend.
- This next one will be hard for you but it’s important to remind yourself to stay positive. It is really hard for introverts to make friends so it can be discouraging when it seems like it isn’t going well. Stay positive. That’s an important part of the ‘An introverts guide to feeling good about yourself’. Keep going and you will find that you can gain one new friend over time and that’s probably perfect for what you need.
So, there you have it. If you are an introvert, you can make friends and you don’t have to feel like there is anything wrong with you. You are perfect and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. The anxiety that comes from trying to make friends doesn’t need to turn into depression. Understand yourself and be OK with who you are. Refer to the ‘An introverts guide to feeling good about yourself’ often!
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